Thinking about something is easy, and so is thinking about doing something. But when it comes to doing it… well… that’s a whole different story.
Everything we think about doing has its own set of difficulties. In my case, doing something publicly posed a certain number of obstacles in my head. Fear of rejection was without a doubt the biggest of them all, closely followed by the Fear that people wouldn’t acknowledge my work or that my work would be of no use to others or the Fear of not being able to keep up and just quitting.
These are all real Fears, and more than not go through everyone’s head. Don’t get me wrong, they are more than legitimate but they should also be deemed of little importance. To see why let’s go over them one by one:
Fear of rejection – Rejection comes in many forms, from a depreciating comment about your work to being made fun of for doing what it is that you are trying to accomplish.
For me this was the Fear that bothered me the most. I felt it as if it was there to stay. With time, I came to realized that I’m doing this for me and me alone. When you do something for yourself you should always be satisfied, regardless of what others think. If you are sharing your mind with the world you will without a doubt run into three types of people. The ones that will try to put you down; These are the people that give body to your uneasiness, and these are also the ones that don’t want to see you succeed. In a way, they to suffer from the Fear of rejection. For them it’s easier to put you down rather than getting their hands dirty. The second type simply don’t care for what it is you are engaged in and will be on their way. Lastly, your true audience. These people will hear what you have to say. They will share their story with you and listen to what it is you are telling them. They want to know how you overcame your fears and will strive to replicate your results. It is for you and this last group of people that you should be performing. Disregard all other, they are just not worth your time.
Fear that my work won’t be acknowledged/will have no value – No one likes to work just for the fun of working. Everyone works with goals, or at least they should. They guide you towards completion.
When you work with others as your audience, you want to offer value on what it is you are creating. This leads to Fear that you might not give your spectators exactly what they want. Keep calm and work for yourself and your public will eventually show up. When you work for yourself you are growing as a person and gaining experience, creating value for others is just a byproduct of creating value for yourself. As stated at worldometers.info human count is at about 7,473,840,000. With these many potential users of what it is you offer you are sure to find a group of people that will realize value regardless of your Fear.
Fear of not keeping up and quitting – This is another one that torments me. Every day I wake up thinking that I can’t keep it up, views are low, people don’t engage so why continue?
To make it simple and straight, we are all going to die someday so why even try? The truth is we all love living and we all want to create a legacy. Whether your legacy is perpetuated through your children or through your sculptures everyone has the urge to create one. The joy of living and our ambition is what gives us strength. Clinch on to them and don’t look back.
How then do I overcome these Fears, you ask? Well the answer is simple… you just do it. Just create whatever it is you would like to create. Put yourself to the test and do what it is you ambition. Humans adapt and learn. As you commit, you will learn and all these Fears will eventually dissipate. Don’t look back and don’t be bothered for what others think or say. Do it for yourself and you will accomplish what you want. Have faith in yourself.
Although in this next video we hear Derek Sivers (@sivers) talk about leadership, you can see that all the Fears that we went about have a placement within the clip. Watch the clip and look at the Leader overcome his Fears and go on to create a movement. After all, who doesn’t love a Fearless Leader?